Dependently Wealthy

So there I was, as I often am on a Tuesday night, sitting in our town’s dive bar with my buddy Matt.

We go there pretty much every week, after playing a couple of hours of basketball in our local middle school gym.

It’s a terrific ritual and one which I confess to looking forward to all week long.

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Not only is it fun, somehow I get a great deal of satisfaction knowing that the health gains realized due to the evening’s exercise are cashed in just minutes later, as a result of drinking two or three pints of beer on an empty stomach.

You’d think we’d spend a lot of time at the bar afterwards talking about the game. But we really don’t. A comment here or there about something amazing or stupid or funny that happened, sure, but that’s about it.

And even though we typically play five or six games in the span of two hours, I end up with practically zero memory of how many times my team had won or lost during the night.

I suppose that makes sense since the games we play don’t count for anything.

There are no standings or record keeping and the teams are assembled at random each week. They’re even reshuffled, several times in a given night, also at random.

What’s funny though, is that within a given game, everyone is acutely aware of the score.

But why? We’re only there for the fun and the exercise (and the beer); why not just play without a score?

Not that you asked, but I think it’s because keeping score is what makes it interesting: Beating the other team handily is fun. Getting beaten handily makes you try harder next time. Tying up the game and knowing that the next team to make a basket wins, is exciting.

If you take the score away, on the other hand, all you’re left with is several hundred pounds of middle-aged man flesh (a great name for a band) trotting back and forth with no purpose.

I mention this today, because it relates very directly to the role that money plays in our lives as solo professionals.

Permit me to explain…

When you work alone, you have one business-related problem in the world: making enough money. Other than that, you can say, do, dress, think and operate however you like.

In this respect, it’s the mirror opposite of having a job, a situation in which the money is guaranteed but everything else is hopelessly constrained.

I used to look at money, therefore, as the bad part; the challenge I had to face on a daily basis.

I used phrases like “it’s a constant struggle” and “it’s always hanging over my head,” to describe that aspect of life as a solo. I would even daydream about being independently wealthy, believing that if I were, I could take money out of the equation and just enjoy doing the work.

But then one day I realized something very important: Money is like the score in my Tuesday night basketball game.

It’s not a bad thing; it’s what keeps me interested. It’s what helps me focus. It’s what gives me that unmistakable feeling of “scoring the winning basket” when things go particularly well in my work.

You take the need for money away – and along with it, the role it plays in covering my mortgage, paying my health insurance and purchasing penguin-themed items for my office – and I’m suddenly a lot less productive, creative and engaged.

Here’s the bottom line. I know you need money. Me too.

So try this. Instead of seeing that need as a burden that has to be dealt with in order to live the wonderful life of a solo, look at it as just an integral part of the game. A part that, if removed, you’d miss.

Because you know what? When you get to the end of your working life, you won’t remember how many times you won or lost either. All that’s going to matter is that you played the game for a couple of hours.

See you next Tuesday.


8 thoughts on “Dependently Wealthy

  1. Fayola

    Oh wow. This post really sent a light off in my head. My favorite secret fantasy is marrying rich so that I could do my writing without worrying about paying the bills each month! This is a great shift in perspective. Thanks!

  2. Jerry Burns

    Awesome post! My basketball night has been Monday since before I was married (18 wonderful years) and your description of the night had me smiling as it’s so true. Great analogy and I enjoyed meeting you at the Boston OneCon. Isn’t it great to still be playing hoop! I had a minor injury and OneCon that cost me a few weeks, can’t wait for tomorrow…hope your Tuesday is as good!

    1. Michael Katz Post author

      Great to meet you as well, Jerry! And glad you’re playing. If I can hang on long enough to play in the same game with my youngest (he’s 14 so another year or two) I’ll be thrilled!

  3. Phil Stewart

    For some, money is the only thing and a direct score card easy to comprehend — for others myself included, its the challenge of completion and too many times in a crunched time frame, so maybe its really the adrenalin and the money is secondary mmm . . . . cheers!


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